Interpretations, rituals and traditions have varied the course of marriage. Not the guru of the subject but offering explanation from experiences either witnessed or involved with, equipted with 04 ceremonies and 03 men as participants in the process of marriage with only 01(current) total commitment.
In America the institution of marriage has always been more a commodity of control than a relationship between a man and a woman for the preservation of the human race. Age, race and gender have dominated topics to promote discord in society regarding marriage. Biblically the proper age was for the girl entering womanhood or the boy to explore his manhood.
Race should have been ridiculous as argument since regardless of shade or dialect we are all of the same race, human. Biblical it was forbidden for the Jews to inter-marry(Deutoronomy 12:30, Ezra 09:01-15) solely for the purpose of increasing and preserving that part of society as a blue-print for Righteous Living. This is the sole purpose for the repeat mention of that nation, it was a sect of persons usually the least and or worst chosen by THE ALMIGHTY to live under HIS GUIDANCE. Abraham was not from what we now call Israel. He was from what is modern Turkey or somewhere in the land of Iraq. That land was pagan and worshipped multiple gods not THE GOD. Abram later called Abraham(Genesis 12:01, 02) pleased GOD as did Noah(Genesis 06:09-12) of his time and GOD asked him to leave the country of his father and go where GOD LEADS. Abraham was a young man, married but childless. It took 75 years and multiple wives and concubines to create the nation called Israel after the grandson of Abraham, Jacob later called Israel(Genesis 32:28, 29). There were multiple wives because Sarai felt GOD needed her help to manifest HIS COVENANT to Abraham. She kept insisting Abraham mate with her servants(Genesis 16:01-07). Even Isaac repeated the pattern of his father in parenting it took time for Rebekkah to conceive(Genesis 25:21, 22).
Jacob became the heir of Blessing from Isaac because his brother sold his birthright for food(Genesis 25:29-34). Along with the aide of his mother in deceiving Abraham for Esau's Blessing(Genesis 27: 05-21) later Jacob's sons would deceive him by betraying their brother and selling him to Ishmaelites who later sold him to Egyptians(Genesis 37:12-36). Preparing the fate of Joseph to become a prominent figure and a friend of the Captain of the guards(Genesis 39:04-23). In the Bible you can connect the dots of the human race to observe the entry of evil and it's effect on our perception(Job 30:26). We can truly blame the mistakes of our ancestors for the state of society today. There is enough blame for everyone however, to edit the mistakes with Salvation and change our fate or rebel against GOD and remain in full remission and eventually die and face GOD on THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT(Romans 14:10). The important of life is your Relationship with GOD. Everything in between is practice and learning or utilizing your DIVINE RELATIONSHIP to interact among society(Romans 12:09-21). Sure you will still make mistakes but Repent(Acts 17:30, 31) and proceed to the next adventure of experience. It is easy to judge or insinuate your views as reality but who's to say whether your truth is the truth?
After many centuries of Providing, Protecting and Preserving a "stiff-necked people(Exodus 33:03)", GOD PERMITTED the Jews to govern themselves and they chose Saul over GOD(1. Samuel 10:17-27).
Life on earth since the beginning of time has ushered evil and death into our existence by our decisions and choices. It is our ultimate responsibility to choose wise.
The issue of sexual origin in marriage Biblical should not be an argument because THE CREATOR had specific reason for designing our bodies the way HE DID and HE saw that everything was good(Genesis 01:31). HE informed our fore parents what their choices were and the consequences behind them(Genesis 02:16-25). Apparently the serpent who was most cunning of his species was also cunning toward humanity because he was able to convince Eve that GOD was playing tricks with their intellect(Genesis 03"01-21). That serpent like today's media took the words of GOD and manipulated them to deceive his victims. He was angry at himself for disobeying GOD but refused to repent and was cast out of Heaven. The Word says, " I saw Satan fall like lightning from Heaven(Luke 10:18 & John 12:31)" that's his legacy, lying, stealing and killing(John 10:01-10), JESUS came to restore that original relationship between humanity and GOD. Marriage was man and woman originally, can you imagine if same sex was always permitted. You can't because it would have only been that couple Adam and Steve or Jackie and Jane. They would have sacrificed the ability to pro create life. They could however design lavish art and buildings and gardens but not more humans. Robots or transformers but no physical life. Growing up and whoring with Religion I encountered various doctrines and none gave me an in depth commitment because the guru's and reverends and pastors were not rightly dividing the Word of GOD(2. Timothy 02:15). They were doing as the media does and giving their interpretation and view but denying the Power of GOD to operate by choice.
I had no example to how marriage looked. Each of my uncles had several baby mamas and my mother and father fought and argued more than communicate and compromised. My grandmother who raised me lived with my grandfather(not biological) for over 30 years but they never married and when she joined a particular religion they told her she had to leave our home and move into the projects. I was 09 years old and not very happy about GOD interfering with my life and changing the rules. It took a lot of years of disobedience and trauma to have me realize that Salvation is personal and noone could dictate the length or severity of your decision to trust GOD. Another great individual has left this earth and the circumstances evolving his departure have the human mind speculating and judging without concrete evidence. At this site following a writing about the Steve McNair's death people left comments that would make you believe these people personlly knew the victims. http://nfl.fanhouse.com/2009/07/05/sahel-kazemi-identified-as-second-victim-in-mcnair-tragedy/1;%20alovlilade2 said...
"What a sad pathetic consequence. I wonder how his mother feels? She was so proud of her son. He did good things for her and she deserved them. My prayers are for her also. When are men like him going to consider the costs for their choices. There are silly women who have drama following them and no matter what they tell you the ex is always a threat. He hurt everyone that loved him with his "player" antics. As for the young lady she was obviously gold digging and look what it got her. Her young life has ended so tragically. College would have been a better choice. "
That's an opinion derived from information gathered here's another; damon030 said...
"you people are sick , no one knows what happened or knows anyhing about what kind of man this was, this man with Your drug addict hero brett farve bought a tractor trailer full of food and clothes for hurricane victims both black and white and all you can do is blame him for some idiot shooting him, its easy to be an dumb ass behind a screenname huh.damon030 said...
you people are sick , no one knows what happened or knows anyhing about what kind of man this was, this man with Your drug addict hero brett farve bought a tractor trailer full of food and clothes for hurricane victims both black and white and all you can do is blame him for some idiot shooting him, its easy to be an dumb ass behind a screenname huh."
Same story two diverse opinions. That's freedom say what you want do what you like, just remember consequence. Another site had this:
Police Rule McNair's Death a Homicide
Posted Jul 04, 2009 6:07 PM
By TERESA M. WALKER
http://www.fanhouse.com/news/nfl/steve-mcnair-found-shot-to-death/556237?
Speaking of NFL formerquarterback Steve McNair, "McNair led the famous Tennessee Titans' drive that came a yard short of forcing overtime in the 2000 Super Bowl, before the Titans traded him to the Baltimore Ravens in 2006. "On the field, there isn't a player that was as tough as him," the Ravens' Derrick Mason said.
McNair retired last year and had recently opened a restaurant in Nashville, where he shared a condo with a friend."
With the news of a tragic death and loss of talents comments left from spectators concluded adultery and all manner of evils but we have no idea what the relationship was between these two individuals only what the press and police have submitted to inform of the loss.
Adultery is a serious offense to a family and all involved and GOD certainly never ordained such a drastic tearing of family(Matthew 19:04-07)" Have you not read that HE WHO MADE them at the beginning made them male and female, and for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh? So then they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what GOD has JOINED togther, let no an separate." Here in America it is like a video game, in Los Angelos they marry and dissolve marriages like they are scripts for the big screen and due to the broad coverage of information access we a privy to what should be private and carefully orchestrated. In Hollywood they switch partners like dance-a-thons. I do believe most of it is to boost careers and media ratings. No one seems to take the innocense of the children of these transactions into consideration. I occassionally watch the Maury Povich show and with all the episodes of paternity it would have you believe half the U.S. of A. has no idea who their daddy is. The essence of marriage has become folly.
It took heartache and pain for me to discover my responsibility to engaging the sanctity of marriage. Along with the observation of my husband's immediate family and their relationships with each other and the public. With Biblical/Islamic guidance I'm doing a better job than ever before. I respect my husband and honor his abilities. We protect each other, we argue but we know when to leave a subject and return to it later. I've been there done that and feel like all of us created equal have flaws and need time and trust to fill the voids not extra marital activities.
Another site that offers divorce info.; http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/pubtoptenmyths.htm had this to say,
"Although many people who divorce have successful subsequent marriages, the divorce rate of remarriages is in fact higher than that of first marriages." And this, "Divorce increases the risk of interpersonal problems in children. There is evidence, both from small qualitative studies and from large-scale, long-term empirical studies, that many of these problems are long lasting. In fact, they may even become worse in adulthood." or " Marriages of the children of divorce actually have a much higher rate of divorce than the marriages of children from intact families. A major reason for this, according to a recent study, is that children learn about marital commitment or permanence by observing their parents. In the children of divorce, the sense of commitment to a lifelong marriage has been undermined."
See its experience that gives each of us opportunity to choose. However, as children we grasp the experiences of those around us and limit ourselves because of projection. I did not want the relationship of those around me so I sought different but different was not always better. So parents be extremely careful of how you interact in front of your children, they are learning from you. We must also realize that happiness is from your state of mind. You set the tone for that and to delete certain experiences because its unfamiliar is a disservice to yourself. We are "helpers" one to another not dictators and rulers. We should accent each other and compliment one another. For me to criticize and demoralize my husband speaks less of myself esteem. How can I down him and expect to rise. We are one, it benefits me to make life easier for him and he does the same for me. We accomplish more together than apart. I've been with him 21 years off and on but his consistency kept me intrigued and constantly comparing everyone else to him until I finally figured I was looking for what I already had and kept taking him for granted. We lived together 11 years before we finally married but by the time I committed to him I understood a little more about commitment. I had some more growing to learn my responsibility in the contract. It could not be all of him and none of me or all of me and none of him. It has to be all of us and none of the other stuff. Other peoples dramas are their making and participating.
You can not totally rely on the advice you receive from others without your own involvement and conclusions. Most of the time your advice is from someone who lacks the experience you are questioning. How can a single woman tell a married woman what her man is suppose to do. She is single right? Married woman since she was 13 telling a single woman what her man is not suppose to do. She has always been married right? Everyone let each other have their experience and be available to listen without judging and comment without bias. If we get back to the basics and redefine ourselves we can better co-exist. We definitely need to redefine marriage and commitment/contract. I have written on the subject"Marriage honorable and undefiled." The vow states, "I promise to love and cherish, honor and obey in sickness and in health forsaking all others til death do us part." I may have left out or disarranged a line or two but now days we edit the original anyway because some don't like the "obey" others don't like the "forsaking all others" we manipulate what GOD GAVE SPECIFICS about and escape farther and farther apart from OUR CREATOR. Divorce is not compromise, counseling, therapy, music charm school are compromise. Children, property, finance, employment these are tools of manipulation and divorce is final, the end, I quit. The vow says, until death do us apart. Not the money run out or the honeymoon is over or she's yo' kid not my kid. It's give and take not take and not give. It's do and don't interchangeably. Love, Respect, and Honor good tools to operate with.
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