Examining the Benefits of LOVE

Observing the state our societies being reduced to kaos & wars all in the name of love & honor, I have concluded either we don't know what LOVE is or we refuse to accept the benefits for the deceits & propaganda's.
The greatest portion of my life has evolved or surrounded the concept of love as viewed through the eyes of playmates & neighbors as a child & church goers & co-workers as an adult. Attempting to define love as observed through ones upbringing could Mar & scar the depths & benefits of love to an innocent victim of physical & or verbal abuse disguised as love.
Childhood games like tag & dodge ball also presented warped theories regarding love. One would tag or not hit the ones they loved & skip over those considered "cooties" a childlike word expressed as weird. Various religious views definitely confuse if not destroy the mind of a victim of abuse or the self-esteem deprived character of observations. Puzzled by the many claims as the "true" sect or organization yet all profess to be of or from GOD.
Certain I read that "a house divided against itself will fall(Matt. 12:25 & Luk. 11:17)". Or that believers were to have "like minds(Romans 12:16)" & be on "one accord(Phil. 2:2)" to fully Operate In The Name Of LOVE and guide others.
Where then does the division arouse? Scripture says from pride and or deception(James 4:1).
In search of dialog or theory I obtain information from this site:http://www.wikihow.com/Love I borrowed an how to on love:
Love is a strange feeling that can be one of the most amazing in all the world. Sometimes the emotions associated with love are blissful, and there are times when they can really hurt. In the end, love is something most of us, if not all of us, will encounter. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
1Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
2Empathize. Put yourself in someone Else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
3Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
4Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
5Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them.
6Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.
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“How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?”— Albert EinsteinLove is difficult to define. How do you avoid confusing it with infatuation or lust? Philosophers and psychologists both have attempted to define love, per least its difference from infatuation and lust. If you are looking to find love, the following observations may be helpful.Love is much more than a risk, but is a risk that one can take and grasp and fall into a dark abyss or dig oneself a hole and only crawl back when you overcome your emotions.How can one truly define what love is? Not even an experienced person can truly grasp or explain love to its truest and deepest meaning. Its concepts are just a never ending story of an open book of experiences. But love does lie in one's heart, where memories are but shadows lingering in your soul.
1The dictionary defines love in several ways in which we use the word. For example, love is:
A strong positive emotion of; affection or pleasure; e.g, "His love for his work." or "I love cooking."
Any object of warm affection or devotion or liking: "The theater was her first love". "I love French food".
Beloved: a beloved person; used as a term of endearment.
A deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; e.g., "She was his first love" or "She loves her husband."
A score of zero in tennis or squash: "It was 40-love!"
Sexual love: sexual intercourse between two people. e.g. "They made love." "He hadn't had any love in months".
2Love is characterized by the desire to want good things for that person no matter what. And you're willing to work out your problems together. And you can hardly breathe when you're around them. Even though you may see them all the time or hardly ever, it's as if you get that rush of what you felt when you got your first kiss.
3The Greeks defined love in four categories:
Agape love is unconditional love. It is love by "choice" even if you are not pleased. A good example is "God loves us with our faults."
Philia love is the dispassionate virtuous love, guided by our likes or our healthy or unhealthy needs and desires.
Storge is the word for family love and the physical show of "affection", the need for physical touch. Sometimes the love between exceptional friends. See also: WikiPedia:Storge
Eros is the physical "sexual" desire, intercourse. It is the root word of erotic, and eroticism.
4Define love by thinking of what it means to you. Be bold and write down the feelings and thoughts you have about love.
5Be aware of moments when you feel love towards anyone or anything.
6Consider your motives, what are you each getting from the situation, especially if it is progressing too quickly.
7Think about whether you'd feel the same way if the other person's looks were to change (is it just attraction).
8Capture your feelings in metaphors, poetry or songs. "Love is like..."
9Define love like a psychologist: love can be viewed as having three parts, triangularly. There are three key components:
Passion underlies physical desire, sexual behavior, and arousal. This is the physical side.
Intimacy is the emotional aspect: closeness, connectedness, and warmth of friendship.
Commitment is the decision-making part "CHOICE" of love; are couples willing to work it out?
10Expressing love may start as flirting with smiles, winks and maybe even kissing, but it is usually infatuation at this point, approaching with curiosity by one or both parties. While time is usually spent looking to discover more about this intriguing person, much time will be spent pondering the many possibilities of what could happen, or the consequences that may become of a certain action, or on the other hand the good that may come of it.
11Thrill as the person in love having little else of such interest in the real world, food may taste bland, concentrating has become a serious mental struggle and even fun pastimes may seem worthless, as pacing and walking or even simply sitting or lying while musing about the person seems a most engaging thing to do.
This type of behavior can lead to serious disturbances at work and at home, especially if the person feeling love is already an item with somebody else with whom they may have shared these feelings at some time in the past.
12Deeply in love it is thought that one can only be really in love with one person at a time. The part of the human being that is reserved for sharing with another (which some may call the soul, or the heart) is used up while dedicating itself to that one source, and that it is impossible to feel the overwhelming feeling of love in two sources: "twice-at-once" sounds impossible!
Although similar, love is thought not to be like pain which has definite locations; it is thought that it can move around, although usually it will reside in the lower stomach or the bottom of the throat, with sensitive areas like the temples and the legs and joints feeling stressed and weak. The mouth is often dry and the eyes seem strained, and this is all usually given the diagnosis of love sickness, or in some cases where love isn't present, influenza.
13Endure for a time. Time does seem to be the only healer in the case of lost love. The full connection of two loving parties (mutually) could lead to a stronger relationship, and developments such as procreation and marriage; but in the case of a single party or the rejection of the first party by the second, or even in the case of a secret love, being in love will usually only fade after the interest is out of sight and out of mind, or gives full closure to the pursuer.
14Love forever (especially in literature)--it is forever. No matter how much time passes by, or what obstacles become present in the path of true and pure love, love will endure. This may be far fetched from reality, but many find it to be a preferable way to think.
Although this may be a much more joyous belief to have of love, there are also those situations where love does fail. This can be easily said to have been due to false love of mistaken identity between persons (as lovers are star crossed and are meant to find each other). Either way, the difference between feeling love and not feeling it is a distinct one, and cannot be mistaken. It is a true sickness that is present and can be more crippling than the flu, depression and many other illnesses combined.
Love can cause war; in the cases of love of religion and the love of money; war can cause people to steal and murder, it can lead to suicide and shatter marriage and family life, it can spread disease and give birth to evil; but love is eternal and cannot be eliminated, it is what makes people human. "I think therefore I am" may also be translated as "I love therefore I am".
Also in some philosophical terms nothing lasts forever, not love either. Nothing has ever lasted forever since the dawn of time, nor shall anyone ever know if anything will. It is somewhat of a paradox since eternity cannot by definition have a conclusion, and no conclusions can ever be reached without a conclusion. Also if the human mind were somehow able to last eons, human nature dictates that angry, boredom, and/or irritation will end any relationship given enough time.
15Allow yourself to think so you may choose why, where and when to find your life partner not just for simple breeding or survival of the fittest, but in order for developing and choosing as human beings not just feeling beings.
16Share your love and spread it on through new generations, so while love lasts eternally, your mark upon humanity is also forever through your children and children's children; you make your mark by your genetic codes, understandings and teachings continuing--passed on and developed forevermore!
This eternal possibility is a gift, not just dedication; you have to choose as we were born with conscientiousness.
Desire is the want of more and is unsellable, not to be confused with Love which is joy and contentment.
Many thanks for the suggestions to the subject of love. However, I agree most with The Holy Bible & It's summation found in 1. Corinthians 13: the entire chapter is devoted to the characteristics & qualities of love. As mentioned from the Greek, the word Agape Unconditional love is the formula I most identify as its depth & perception.
I do agree that one must identify what matches their faith & accentuates their existence and vice verse. As with any other involvement, choose wisely & let no one dictate your heart but don't be so sure about yourself that you neglect to grow from that unknown but necessary or vital to understanding. Be Blessed.