It's not the issues that make a Person..,

The affects of death are broad and damaging to many Souls having the smallest connection with the loss of a Beloved. Evidence that mere words are not Comforting and judgmental connotations pierce the wound rather than heal it are seen when your own self is hell-bent on causing Your Soul to reject GOD'S INVITATION TO LEADERSHIP(Matthew 24:05) & REST(Matthew 11:28, 29 & Heb. 03:11).
Self preservation should keep you too busy scrutinizing your inventory to offer criticism of others(Matthew 05:43-48, 07:01-14, & 07:21-23).
Instructed to be whatever is Necessary to GOD'S WILL when attempting to Comfort or Console Others(Isa. 61:03 & 1. Cor. 04:01).
Servants Willing To Be Available Especially in Pure Silence as The Comforted Adjusts to their sudden Reality.
More than often we interfere WITH GOD'S PLAN by seeing beyond Your Need to attend to An other's fault(Matthew 07:03).
Basically you become a sinner each and every time you cause One Of GOD'S CHILDREN To Lose Sight of HIS PURPOSE for Life and death (John 10:01:-42).
Reflect on the three that accompanied a teenager that followed the examples of his mentors when debating with Job(Job 01:01-38:01) rather than Comforting Him(Job 31:35-40).
If GOD DOES IT WHATEVER it IS WILL BE DONE PERFECTLY(James 01:07).
Good intentions have a tendency to turn all bad without THE DIRECTION & INFLUENCE OF GOD(Prov. 03:06).
A recent tragedy opened Pandora's box for criticism and speculations but no Comfort:
http://www.fanhouse.com/2010/03/09/brianne-matthews-softball-and-sorrow/?
Lonnie White is a NCAA writer and columnist for FanHouse
HUNTINGTON BEACH, Calif. -- A few months ago, Nadia Martinez and her 16-year-old daughter, Brianne Matthews, drifted into an uncharacteristic conversation about life and death.Martinez is not sure about what led to the discussion, but she felt a little odd when Matthews calmly told her how she would like to be remembered after she died."She wanted her ashes to be sprinkled all over a softball field because that's where she lived," Martinez said about Matthews, who had a 14-4 pitching record as a freshman last year for Mater Dei (Calif.) High School. "It didn't matter where. As long as it was a softball field with a mound. That's where she dominated."Always an overachiever, Matthews had gotten it done off and on the softball diamond. She carried a 4.0 grade point average at academically testing Mater Dei and was committed to pursue a career as a neonatologist. Despite being only a high school sophomore, Matthews already had accepted a full-ride college scholarship offer to play softball for national powerhouse Arizona after she graduated in 2012. A phenom.
It's been the out-of-sight whispers that have bothered Martinez the most since her daughter's death."The toughest thing has been coming to grips with the fact that your child is no longer here and that you did your best but somehow that wasn't enough," Martinez said. "You can't help but think about why you couldn't do more."I know that it's probably something that I should not have done but to fill my time, I've read all of the comments that people have left on stories about her death and on different Internet sites."Anybody that has done anything at the level that [Bri] was at knows that you don't get that good without a personal commitment. I know that people like to speculate about pressure being put on her but I would like to stress the fact that there's nothing anyone can do to push people to excel at the level where she was."It takes a personal commitment and that's the truth. You can't make people go run. You can't make them put in that extra work to be great. ... It's something that she did. Something that she wanted to be the best at."
I love the perspective of Ms. Martinez, she could easily have become self-pityed and depressed listening to spectators but she chose The High Road.
To Wait ON THE REVELATION FROM THE ONLY PERSON WITH THE FAIR & JUST ANSWER, GOD.
It is proven that issues, circumstances and education or talents cannot prevent accidents, death, situations or tragedies. These are the children of sin and must function their courses until GOD PUTS AN END to death on JUDGEMENT DAY(Revelations 20:11-18).
A product of sin, We Are More than Conquerors(Romans 08:37) & sin is Overcome by The Testimonies of our Faith(Revelations 12:11).
It's not the time a life spent while living but The Life that time tormented and how that Life responded to adversity that builds Character(Romans 05:01-06).
It's not the issues but The Character that counts towards Pure Religion and a Prosperous Life.